More Marriage Advice

Aside from knowing your partner's most horrifying habits and personality disorders prior to getting married, I have one more bit of advice -- especially for you women out there.  Never push a guy into marriage.  Never make an ultimatum.  Never even bring marriage up.  Never get pregnant "accidentally" to trap a guy.  Let's face it.  Many men will eventually cheat on their wives at some point.  It's just the way things go.  Men know how hard it is to be monogamous, and therefore, are resistant to making a huge commitment like getting married which means FOREVER (unless you have some type of open marriage arrangement -- hey, it's no body's business but your own). 

Many times after a certain dating length the woman will want a ring, wedding and babies.  The guy is on the fence knowing how ********g scary it is, as many women are financially clueless and have NO idea what it takes to make financial security happen.  She gets pissed when he does not pop the question.  The guy senses this.  A little time goes by.  He may purchase her a necklace or earrings to pacify her and buy some more time.  The woman is tapping her toes impatiently.  She starts putting on the pressure and lobs out ultimatums.  A lot of times the guy is dragged to the alter while having his doubts. 

.....and now you women are shocked when he cheats or wants out of the marriage?  He did not really want to get married in the first place.....

This is where I am old fashioned.  I think the guy should ask the girl because most men are pressured by women out of an obligation or final ultimatum.  There are men who really do want to get married and feel no pressure whatsoever and can't wait to tie the knot.  That's awesome.  That's the way it should be.    Bottom line is that getting married is scary and I think everybody will have doubts -- even if it's a match made in heaven.  The difference is whether or not the parties feel obligated or pressured.