Bachelorette Parties

 My daughter is at an age where her age group is getting married.  Yea for them :)  

My, how things have changed with this generation.  For starters, these "weddings" and associated celebrations drag on forever.  By the time the engagement party, bachelorette party, wedding shower and  rehersal dinner are over with, everybody is exhausted and broke sucking any gleam of hope that this is supposed to be SUCH A HAPPY TIME.  To top it off, the wedding has not even happened yet.

.......And that is assuming you are not dragged off to some locale for a "destination" wedding.  I have no idea why the bridal couple think all we want to do is spend our limited vacation time and money for THEIR wedding!  I don't subscribe to the "make our wedding your vacation plans." 

I digress.

There is a new trend out there where every bachelorette is trying to outdo the other one with their party.  It's out of control.  Jetting off to Hawai'i for the weekend - jetting off to Vegas - jetting off to god only knows where.

Here's the truth.  Nobody really wants to go.  Sorry, Brittany, if this bursts your self-absorbed little bubble.

It's a huge hassle to book airline tickets and they are expensive.  Everything about flying is a hassle, and just for a weekend?  Come on. Wait. It's for the entire week you say?  Great.  You're obligating your bridesmaids to use vacation time they probably don't have AND asking them to use up their vacation pay (assuming they get any paid vacation at all) for YOU.

There's more.

Now it's onto the activities that bridezilla will want to schedule that will be even more expensive and draining.  I have not even touched on the cost of housing and food.  

By the time the party is over, the cat fights are on as everybody is at each others' throats because Ashley did not pay her fair share and was a pain-in-the-@$$ the whole time.  Then there is the added bonus of  flights being delayed or canceled and now there is the mad scramble to get home in time for work the next day. 

Oh, I forgot to mention that Bride Brittany, who's GREAT idea this was, now wants everybody to chip in and pay HER share as well. 

End result = nobody enjoyed the trip and staying home doing something locally would have been better.

Attention Bridezilla:  If you think emptying your bridesmaid's wallets while simultaneously sucking up all their vacation time is a good idea, you need to reevaluate the true meaning of friendship.  Nobody really cares about your pageant, oops, I meant wedding.  

Trust me.