The Breakup

M and her boyfriend broke up about 6 months ago.  M is a VERY good friend of mine.  Personally, I was glad she broke up with him as he was nothing but a 6'6" overgrown, irresponsible, flaky, drunk infant.  He can't have a checking account, hasn't filed taxes in years, runs an illegal business for cash under the table, does not have health insurance or any other kind of insurance, and has blown through his inheritance with dumb purchases, chasing women, booze, and vacations to god only knows where.

...and that is the type of guy she's crying over.....

I told M to thank her lucky stars she had the courage to break up with him.  A future with him?  Really?  Does she want to be stuck with him only to have to spoon feed him, push him around in a wheel chair, and change his diapers when he injures himself falling down the stairs in a drunken stupor?   It's only a matter of time.  If she waited that long to dump him she would have felt the guilt of abandoning somebody in a time of need.  Breaking up with him was a preemptive strike. 

Now it's the photos on Facebook that has M all in a tizzy with the ex and a new woman.  Good.  I told M she should thank the new love interest for taking that train wreck of a man off her shoulders and relieving her.  Of course the ex-boyfriend and the girlfriend are all goo-goo-gushy on FB right now.  The relationship is new and the facade the ex-boyfriend puts on has not been exposed.  The new woman has not figured him out yet.  Give it time.  Just wait until the new girlfriend figures out that he's really flat broke despite the glitz and flash and has a SERIOUS drinking problem and lives with his married, adult daughter because he can't sign a lease because of his poor credit. 

This guy is a prize?  Really M?  You're crying over HIM?  The new woman's prize will be sleeping with this snoring drunk and passed out 300 pound 6'6" gorilla in her bed with 'erectile dysfunction' issues with no money and no real job.  Wow.  Lucky new girlfriend.  Maybe I should say it will be her surPRIZE. 

M is better off.  She just doesn't quite feel it yet.  Her head says to run, but he still has her heart.  She dodged a bullet.  M, take your newly found independence and RUN.   M, I don't care if you're crying the entire way.  RUN.