Coven Divorce

Yes, my Minnesota coven has had a good run.  We were friends for 50+ years.  All good things must come to an end.  I now get why people divorce after 40+ years of marriage.  Sometimes it takes that long to figure out manipulation, gaslighting, and narcissism.  And sometimes it takes just as long to figure out that nobody's nasty core personality is going to change no matter how much flowery prose they post on social media claiming how much they love everybody and wish for world peace.    

I've always said my superpower is calling truth to BS in five-words-or-less.  I have owned my own BS with the coven when I am wrong.  However, there is one who is now off the charts in "unapologetic love with herself" to the degree where she is now tattooing it on her forearm (for real).  All of her "unapologetic self-love" is nothing more than a self-empowering, feminist sound-byte justification to treat other people like shit and to validate her narcissism.  

SYB can NOT see her own BS.  Yet SHE is the mental health professional who has to "dumb herself down" to be with us.  No shit.  Well, you know me.  I called her on it.  Of course, she did not like it despite pleading with the coven that "we must have honest and open communication to move forward and to move past the yuck."

Well, the honest and open communication comes with terms and conditions - we can't say ANYTHING about HER bullshit.  SYB can't own her own shit.  She can dish it out, but she can't take it.  I stood my ground as did SSP and PMF in attesting that SYB thinks she is holier-than-thou and that her shit does not stink.  Time will tell as what her adoring minions will do.  

Well, SYB......Go and love yourself.  There is another interchangeable four letter word I could have used instead of love, but I am being polite.   SYB does not want friends.  She wants perpetual adoration, which is a classic trait of a NARCISSIST.  They need their constant supply of ego pumps.  If the people in their social circle do not supply them with the ego pumps the narcissist needs, they are tossed out the car window faster than a bad burrito from 7-11.  

Meeting SYB you would think she is the champion of the "underprivileged retards who never learned to reed so good."   It's all a fake cover for being a narcissistic control freak concerned ONLY about HERSELF and how many LIKES she can get on Facebook.  God help you if you have a different opinion from hers on anything.  She is right.  You are wrong.  End of discussion.  

Oh, by the way....did you know SYB was molested by her dad 50 years ago?  Well, that that should be her next tattoo on her forehead as she tells every gas station attendant and cashier her story.   While I am sad that happened to her, she never asks about the rest of the coven of the abuse WE experienced growing up.  It's all about her......all the time......done.  

Reptilian Brain

The old saying "cold hearted snake" isn't so far off the mark.  There really is a personality disorder mostly associated with narcissists where their brains are wired in a somewhat reptilian fashion.  People with this type of brain wiring are broken.  They are incapable of long-term relationships and any kind of love and reciprocity that does not revolve around the RB (reptile brain) constantly having his/her ego stroked. They think nothing of keeping people in their lives -- as long as they serve a useful purpose to them -- and then devaluing and discarding them like they were a wrapper around a fast food hamburger.  They need a constant supply of ego stroking, and like a swarm of locusts will go source-to-source, destroying everything in its path, to feed and keep the ego alive. 

The problem is that these people are smart and know how to manipulate.  It takes time to sift through what is real with them and what is not.  They can't keep the act up forever and they will slip up and show their true colors.  Don't be fooled thinking that the RB suddenly had an epiphany and suddenly grew a conscious and a heart.  They don't.  They just need something from you whether it be nursing their ego or filling their bank account.

Next time a cold hearted snake tries to slither his/her way into your life remember this very helpful visual that somebody told me.  Go into a pet store and look at a lizard and I mean REALLY look at a lizard.  Do you think it's capable of genuine love and feelings?  Do you think the lizard will change if you give it 'just one more chance'?  The chameleon will change colors, but it's not permanent and only a tool for manipulation for the RB to get what s/he wants from you.  Your RB person *is* that lizard.

This one will *not* turn into a prince upon kissing.  Trust me. 

The Narcissist

Oh yes, we've all come across The Narcissist at one point in our lives.  You know, the one who loves himself above all others thinking he's a gift to humanity.  He thinks he is so smart, charming, clever and handsome.  Too bad nobody else agrees.  He is the president of his own fan club. 

The problem with The Narcissist is that he doesn't even realize how self-absorbed he is.  See, normal people can read subtle social cues and react accordingly.  Normal people have a moral conscience and empathy.  The Narcissist does not.  The Narcissist automatically goes into defense attack mode as certainly *he* could not be imperfect -- it's YOU that's the problem.  Always.

Next time you suspect you're around The Narcissist here is a simple exercise as you will see that the universe agrees with you.  Be very calm and still.  Allow The Narcissist prattle on about his wondrous virtues and knowledge.  Notice the energy flow.  You will notice a "one way" energy flow that literally extracts your life force out of you and gives it to him.  The Narcissist is literally a human black hole.