Imagine this scenario as I'm sure it's happened. You bump into an old friend or whatever. You have not communicated in a while. Both of you try to one-up each other on just how BUSY you are and that's the reason you lost touch.
Nobody is charmed by comparing stress stories as if they are something to be proud of and worn on the sleeve like war badges. Nobody is charmed to hear how much more stressful and busy your life is than anybody else's.
Here's the truth: We give attention to what we deem is important. That changes throughout life. That's why you lost touch with So and So. One of you at some point decided, whether consciously or subconsciously, that continued interaction was not important enough to warrant energy.
People come into your life and people go. Yes, there may be extended periods of non-communication for friendships that are deep and meaningful enough to withstand prolonged periods of silence, but for the most part when communication ceases it's because you are no longer of value to the other person -- or vice versa.
Sounds harsh, but don't take it personally, we all have people come and go in our lives.
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