The Debate :(

I was sorely disappointed with both candidates last night.  The debate resembled two teenage brothers arguing and talking over each other while mom the moderator was trying to restore order.  Each side called the other a liar.  The orange cheeto just did not know when to STFU.  He did not do himself any favors with his decorum.  Sleepy Joe dodged answers and did not want to answer how his kid got millions of dollars from Russia and China.  

Each side made some valid points; however, the behavior displayed by both actually made me cry.  This is the best our country can do?  What a horrible example.  I'm weeping because we lost as a country.  

I'm not voting for either.  Please, people, there are other candidates and political parties who are not getting airtime because it would upset those in power.  The democrats are extremely corrupt.  Don't believe me?  Try volunteering and getting involved in the democratic party at your local level.  You will see for yourself how slimy they really are and protective of their own positions despite what the people may want.  

The only way we will change the trajectory of our nation is to say NO to all of this and vote against the madness.  I'm imploring all of you to look beyond the two-party system.  If we don't all we will get is more of each side pointing the finger at the other and NOTHING will change.  

No vote is a wasted vote.  Don't ever let anybody tell you that. 

The Debate

 Are you going to watch it tonight?  I am.  I'm curious as to how each candidate responds to questions.  Hopefully, it's not scripted and we can see without any filters uncensored speech. 

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Bad Dancer: Yoko Ono

I'm an avid Beatles fan.  I've been in love with Paul McCartney since I was 14.  Well, I guess I was in love with all of them as much as a 14 year old girl could be.  Sigh.  

There was a time when I was secretly insanely jealous of any woman who held the heart of a Beatle.  WHY NOT ME????  Well, first there would have to be an actual face-to-face meeting and by the time I was old enough they were all married.  

There was also a time when I believed the evil Beatle women were the ones who broke up the band.  My take is that the band got together when they were still teenagers and spent a lot of time together.  It's only natural that as a man gets into his mid to late twenties life moves to another stage - marriage and kids - and life gets very complicated.  

Gone are my jealousy of Linda McCartney (God rest her soul) and Yoko Ono.   In fact, the older I get the more I appreciate Yoko Ono.  I can see why John loved her.  Here she is with "Bad Dancer."  It makes me appreciate her originality every time I see it.  

Crashing the Economy

Sometimes I wonder if 'the virus' isn't a ploy to crash the world economy so that the mega corporations and big tech can come in and swoop up the leftovers to advance their agenda of world domination.  Think about it.  Small business is nothing but a thorn in the side to the mega corporations.  

....and now onto something completely different.

There is a spot on the US Supreme Court to fill.  Like it or not, the current president has every right to nominate somebody.   The democrats are already assuming that they will hate anybody the president may nominate and posturing warfare - complete with "arrows in their quiver."

That's not teamwork, folks.  Here is a perfect opportunity to show us all you CAN work together.  Instead, each side is digging in their heals and threatening the other.  I'm not impressed.  In fact, it pisses me off even more.  Grow up already. 

Who Are You Going To Vote For? Satan or the Devil?

 hmmmmmmmm.   I don't think I will vote for either.  I don't like Satan nor the Devil as candidates.  It's like asking Americans if we want to be killed by a firing squad or a guillotine.  That's what my choices feel like.  

I don't like the two party system we have.  It's guaranteed to fail.  We need a third party (or more) to make real conversations.  Each side with the current two party system just digs in their heels and nothing gets done.  Each side blames the other.  How convenient for them as they sit in Congress and collect their obnoxious salaries and benefits while we suffer.  The only thing they have in common is that both sides are financed by mega corporations and we don't mean jack poo to anybody.  I blame the media as well as they only give airtime to democrats or republicans, and both have their HUGE flaws with their whacked-out extremists they feel they need to cater to.  

I don't buy that Biden is "the guy."  He's been in politics for several decades and has not done jack shit other than secure him and his family handsome incomes.....and sell us out to China.  Same for Pelosi.  California did not turn to shit overnight.  She and her nephew Gavin Newsom, along with the Browns and the Getty's have had a direct hand in all of it.  

Oh, you did not know that Gavin Newsom was Pelosi's nephew?  Of course not.  The media does not want to touch that truth with a ten foot pole.   

I also want to hear WHY Biden deserves our vote other than for bashing Trump.  What is Biden going to do for us?  More of the same crap that we've been dealing with for the last 40 years (cough, cough, NOTHING)? 

I tell ya, we in the middle are VERY frustrated.  We ultimately pay for everything, but politicians ignore us. 

Bring Out Your Dead!

When word of the virus first hit us all in March and things got shut down I had the below scenario imagined.  

Money Centric Society

Everybody is wondering when things will return to normal.  The short answer?  Never.  See, Mother Nature has handed down a directive that we need to change our ways or she will smite us.  Business is bad for the environment.  Pretty much everything humans do is bad for the environment.  We can't continue with a money centric society.  We need to evolve beyond jobs for cash.  We need to get back to our source of living in harmony with nature and not trying to control it for our own personal comforts and desires.  

What does that look like?  I'm not sitting here claiming I have the all the answers.  Humans are flawed creatures with the innate trait of greed and unchecked egos.  

We are playing the fiddle while Rome burns. 

No More Spotlights nor Stage

Those who thrive with a need for a live audience and perpetual adoration (politicians, actors, narcissists, etc.), are really bummed out these days.  Their stage and spotlight have been taken away by the virus.  All those business people who think their physical presence at meetings where they are seated at the head of the long conference room table (the phallic symbolism is intentional) is absolutely necessary are now looking for the equivalent of Viagra for their egos; everybody is pretty much equal on Zoom.  

Now that in person meetings have been pretty much eliminated, everybody is scrambling as to how to stay relevant and still retain that spotlight, attention, and sense of importance.  Out of sight out of mind, right?

Hurrying out the door to catch a flight across the country dressed to the 9's with a first class ticket and with laptop in hand is no longer necessary.  The LOOK AT ME AND HOW IMPORTANT I AM no longer fits in today's world.  The captive audience of the conference room or convention or whatever have dissipated.  Everything can be done in your pajamas from your spare bedroom.  

Zoom is the great equalizer. 

It's heeeeeeeeere

It has been so hot and smokey in Sonoma County.  It's downright miserable.  Fires are burning out of control.  Global warming is here.  While it's true the earth has been heating and cooling since the beginning of time it's human activity that is causing most of our current misery.  Yup, it's self-inflicted.  Yes, it's also true that it's idiots doing things they are not supposed to be doing that also are causing the fires.

No matter how you slice it, it's PEOPLE who are the cause of the fires and climate change.........and we keep pumping out more and more without thought to the impact on the planet.  The media does not want to touch that truth with a ten foot pole.  

Oh no, I'm not letting anybody off the hook.  What have YOU done to lessen your environmental footprint?  Are you going about your business like nothing is going on?  I'm betting that's pretty much the case.  Tossing your recyclables into the proper bin does not cut it.  Don't you know it all ends up in the general trash anyway?  You need to DO more, not talk about doing more. 

People think that cutting back is for others to do as that would impact your lifestyle.  Worse yet, you're one of those who have the 'Keep Tahoe Blue' bumper sticker on the back of your fossil fuel sucking, gigantic SUV.  Every time you get in your car or travel on a plane you are part of the problem.  Every extra square foot of your house that you really don't need is part of the problem.  YOU are part of the problem.  Before you get all pissy at me, I'm calling myself out on my own environmental imperfections and changing. 

We have to change, sorry if it's not convenient for you.  It's time to put our own self-interests aside and think of the collective good.  Not even the threat of the virus can keep us at home and not running around polluting.  Everybody is whining and disobeying the stay-at-home orders.  Just look at this past weekend where people crowded the beaches.  To add insult to injury they all left behind piles of their trash.  Idiots.  We almost deserve to be killed off by mother nature. 

This is just the beginning, folks.  You will all be whining a lot more soon. 

The Lonely Man

There's a certain type of guy while in his younger years was Mr. Stud and broke many hearts.  Sure, he's been with several women over the years and perhaps married a couple of them.  Even while married his wandering eye got him into trouble.  

This was Mr. Macho at the gym and he would strut around like he owned the place.  For long, complicated reasons my family and I befriended this man (no, I did not have anything to do with him romantically) as he did know a lot about certain subjects I was also interested in.  His love life was no business of mine, but he would mention during our conversations certain women he was currently dating.  It did not take long to figure out a pattern that none of his relationships ever really lasted.  

Time catches up with us all and looks, along with strength, eventually fade.  We all get older.  It's a simple fact of life.  Mr. Macho had to retire and the gaggles of women who used to admire his looks went away, which was a complete blow to his ego.  

I bump into Mr. Macho from time to time around town.  He is personable and friendly, but I can see why his relationships don't last.  He's pretty easy to spot.  He's always sitting alone with wine (or beer) and a book.  It's OK to say hello to him despite his desperation for female company.  

There's a reason he's alone.  

p.s. My California bestie, M, also knows Mr. Macho.  She bumped into him very recently while she was out listening to music.  She had the same impression as I with the reasons he's never in a relationship for long.  

I love M.  She is so funny and to the point.  Here are M's words, "OMG, these guys.  When will they ever learn?  They love to fool around and treat their wives/girlfriends like they are disposable with their insatiable sexual quests.  We do so much for them and then they turn around and trade us in for a newer model like we are a car.  We clean up after them, cook for them, organize their lives, have their babies, plus wash the shit out of their underwear and suck their dicks.  How are we thanked?  They leave us for somebody else because THEY drained the life force out of us.  Then one day their dicks break and they are looking for real love and companionship.  Too late, assholes.  Have fun dying alone.  You reap what you sow."

I laughed so hard at the truth of it all. 

Fire Pit Politics With M

 Our backyard is now the oasis we have always wanted complete with a built in covered BBQ area, fire pit, putting green, garden, you get the picture.  It's like going to a resort without having to go anywhere.  That's the point.  

It's been a work in progress pretty much all summer.  I had M come over last night to check it out.  We went out by the fire pit and talked non-stop for hours on end.  My coven NEEDS a fire pit for our rituals, right?  LOL

We got on the subject of politics.  I've known M for over two decades and no topics are off limits.  We can debate and counter each other's view points without taking anything personally nor getting nasty.  M is the most liberal person on earth, which is fine.  She participates in all the local demonstrations and such.  Here's where it gets a little dicey.  There's been an uptick in burglaries around here.  M was a victim.  The suspects are black and this is a very white neighborhood.  M has called the police department to request more patrolling of the neighborhood.  The police are paranoid about 'profiling' given all that's been going on.  There's no crime for black people walking around the neighborhood, but the description fits the suspects. 

There you have it.  Cops have their hands tied. 

So that led to the conversation about our upcoming election.  What we found interesting is that each side is insisting that if the other side gets elected our country is doomed.  Who's right?  Sounds to me we are effed no matter what. 

It's Official!!!!

My daughter's boyfriend FINALLY proposed.  I can stop walking on eggshells now for fear of slipping up and letting the cat out of the bag.  He was very romantic about it and did it up right.  :)

Now, planning a wedding.  The only experience I have is my son's gay wedding which was very nontraditional and low key. 

Wish me luck.  One thing I will NOT put up with is a bridezilla nor going over the top on stupid stuff that in the big picture does not mean anything i.e., making sure the bridesmaids shoes are the perfect shade to match the flower stems.  Nobody cares.