Sister Sister

My sister and niece are coming to stay with me for a while.  My sister was instantly widowed when her husband died in a car accident in December at the end of their road en route to work.  Take nothing for granted, people.  If you think your life sucks just remember it could always get suckier in a flash.  My sister's life was definitely in suck mode before the fatal car accident for reasons I will not delve into now...and it got suckier. 

Now the dust is settling and the shock has worn off.  My sister is starting to pick up the pieces and move on.  It's hard.  People, don't ever die.  Do you realize how much WORK it is for those who are left behind to sort through?  We all plan on living a long, full life but fate could pull the rug out from you at any given moment.  While your soul is floating blissfully about on the other side sans body free of material and physical constraints those left behind are dealing with a nightmare that they can't seem to wake up from. 

I've tried to set my affairs in order in case something happened to me, but I freeze and end up on the floor in fetal position bawling my eyes out.  I've listed my kids as beneficiaries on pension plans and bank assets.  However, there is the rest of it I need to deal with like real estate and other assets.  Plus, there is the historical family stuff that I need to divvy up. 

Maybe I should not get my affairs in order.  All the assets and such are worth quite a sum of money.  My kids would be well off.  They would probably plot together to kill me in my sleep;)